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"良禽择木而栖”出自《孔子》
还有，贞明夫人一面为丈夫戴正头上的黑色官帽，一面又说：“有道是：良禽择木而栖，贤臣择主而侍。” 良禽择木。
贞明夫人所引的“良禽择木”是孔子在卫国时说过的话。当时卫灵公寻问孔子关于作战布阵的事情，孔子立即回答：“俎豆之事，则尝闻之矣；军旅之事未尝学也。(注：祭祀礼仪之类的事，我听说过；用兵打仗的事，我没有学过。)” 之后，孔子便催促学生们准备离开卫国。学生们不知其故，于是孔子说道：“鸟择木，无木择鸟。” 此言后来演变为“良禽择木而栖，贤臣择主而侍”孔子认为，君子遇事之时应看清在哪才能使自己的聪明才智得到最大程度的运用。
Chinese idiom: "Liang Qin Ze Mu Er Qi" , means: A good bird will choose a tree that is suitable for it, to stay and build it's nest.
Madam Zheng Ming said these words to her husband when putting on the black hat that represent as a Minister on him, "some said that, a good bird will choose a tree that is suitable for it, to stay and build it's nest, a good minister will choose a good king to serve."
The idiom that quoted by Madam Zheng Ming is the word that said by Confucius at Wei Kingdom. The Duke of Wei ask for opinion from Confucius about the battlefield lineup issues. And Confucius tell him that: I know about the matters of worshiping and courtesy, but never thought about battle and war. After that, Confucius urged his students to prepare to leave Wei Kingdom. The students feel strange about this, then Confucius told them: "Only the bird choose wood, never the wood choose bird." and this word become "a good bird will choose a tree that is suitable for it, to stay and build it's nest, a good minister will choose a good king to serve." Confucius think that: a gentleman should always think about whether the situation or place is suitable for him to show his talent and intelligence before making a decision.
以“良禽择木而栖”这句话拉开话闸子，今天要说的是关于“环境”。
常常会听到朋友之间说：“唉... 那个老板都不是人来的，做到半死，人工那一点点。”、“你就好咯，遇到酱好的老板，看我做到半死都没有你薪水高。”很多时候我们埋怨自己的上司不好，呆的环境不能有所发挥，每天郁郁寡欢，悠悠不得志的感觉。如果埋怨能够改变现状，那你早就不埋怨了。那竟然觉得自己对得起天地良心，从没吃蛇偷懒，那为什么还是怀才不遇呢？
大师说过：“如果你改变不了环境，就改变你自己”。说得容易，可是改变自己其实是要改变什么啊？
不就是态度、心态、仪态，还有别的吗？
I start the topic with this idiom. Let's talk about environment today.
Always heard these kind of grumbling between friend's conversation, "My boss is inhuman, work like shit, and the pay is really like shit", "I'm so envious of you to work under such a good company, my work load is more than you but get pay not even as you." We'll stop grumbling if grumbling can really change the bad situation. If you have a very clear conscience, then why you still always feel like you're sinking in a bottomless mud?
Some master quoted that, if you can't change the environment, change yourself. Easy to say with your lips, but what to change about yourself?
That's Attitude, State of Mind & Deportment, what else?
态度决定一切。什么意思？指的就是以你对待外界的方法为因，所引起发生在你自己身上的事情之果。有几点是很重要的，一是表现出“诚意”。
哪门子的诚意？三顾茅庐似的求机会？不止这些，还要有为了吃到老虎肉而能把自己扮成只猪的虚心。在强者（泛指前辈、上司）面前引他分享，在弱者（泛指后辈、下属）面前引他上进。如此应该能得到强者的关注、帮助、扶助，又能得到弱者的尊重、敬重、效忠。如此这般，心术正者，必扶摇直上。
二是忠义。为兄弟能两肋插刀，为主子（泛指老板、上司）能不？为兄弟能翻山越岭，为主子能不？为兄弟能披荆斩棘、上刀山、下油锅、置生死于度外，为主子能不？对兄弟能雪中送炭，对主子能不？对兄弟能赤胆忠肝，对主子能不？不能，你还指望主子会为你两肋插刀、翻山越岭、披荆斩棘、上刀山、下油锅、置生死于度外？你还指望主子会对你雪中送炭、赤胆忠肝？迷茫时劝你者，感激之。落难时助你者，报答之。待人处事无忠无义者，人人诛之。
关于实力、程度、能力这个问题，只要达到标准，也就是所谓的“完美”就行了。这个完美也称之为“最低要求”。当然了，如果一辆新车的车门被刮花了，你还会买吗？我没叫你买一送一，举一反三，只是要求货要对版，一点也不过分吧？总是害怕自己的能力不足，出社会后难以与同业竞争。但自工作后四周看一看，发现有所成就的都未必是成绩标青者，而是态度积极者居多。怎么说？就是聪明反被聪明误吧，能力过低者难以竞争，能力高者往往清高过人，自视过高，要不然就树大招风，锋芒尽露，一下就被刷下来了。只要做得比标准稍稍好一点，处风低调，往往能一帆风顺。其实最难拿捏的，就是“刚刚好”这个事儿啊。
Attitude decide everything. Which mean how you treat the outside, they'll treat you back at the same way. So to show sincerity is very important. Ask for chance with sincerity, and behave to be modest to learn. Attract people with stronger abilities than you (also included your senior, your boss) to share with you, and try to help people weaker than you (also included your junior) to improve. People with kind-heart always success.
Loyalty is important as well, if you cant treat your boss well, don't ever think that they will help you. If you always think of betraying someone or back-stabbing, don't pray for help when something bad happen on you.
Pursue for perfection is the least demand. I bet you won't buy a new Mercedes with a scratch outside the door. Perfection means exactly same with what your boss (or customer) ask for, not giving any extra, so it's absolutely reasonable. Once I always afraid that it might be hard to compete when I enter the society, but it is not that worse as I've thought when I start to work, as we can ignore people that too weak to compete, people who really success is not those people who study really well in school, but those with active attitude.
心态指的是以你对待自己内心世界的方法为因，所引起发生在你影响外界的方法之果。乐观当然是最重要的了。
有没有天塌下来当被盖的觉悟？每天怨声载道，散发负面能量，怎么可能会有正面反馈？我们能做满腹不满的愤青，这是必须的，连对世界上自认有欠公平之事都不敢给予发言，不敢深加思考，不敢公开讨论，你还指望这个人的脑袋能够容得下世界？发言之余是否提出积极观点？思考之余是否发现思路盲点？讨论之余是否和谐商量，交换各自意见观点？积极的讨论，乐观的见解，能让人感觉你有把事情往好处引导的能力。乐观者，必心存善念，好事将慢慢找上门。
话说物以类聚，人以群分。什么群？就拿身边的朋友当镜子来照一照。好吃懒做者、坐以待毙者、守株待兔者、夜郎自大者、异想天开者、寅吃卯粮者、自吹自擂者，如果都有，那不成问题，绝交难为之，疏远倒不必。清醒者，不如试试看能不能再谈吐之间影响之？待人须有诚意，劝说需有诚意，要求需有诚意。真的有事需登三宝殿，更得表现出诚意。送礼？送金？那倒不必，需要的是心无邪念的一句真挚话语。
Statement of Mind means how you affect your attitude to others with your psychological. Of course, optimism is the most important attitude. Have you prepared for anything that will happen accidentally? There won't be any good thing happen if you always release bad energy. We can be those so-called Angry Youth, it is necessary, if we can't even speak our word against things we think it is unfair, can't think out of mind, can't discuss with others, how can we strive to become someone who can really do something to change the world? Think big, work small, be optimistic.
Chinese believe that people will be in the same group that behave like themselves. Look around your circle, what did your friends look like is just same as you. Those lazy one, those wait to be kill one, those wait the durian drop one, those megalomaniac one, those always day dreaming one, those eating dinner at morning one, those always boasting one, is your friend behave like this? You won't have to tear up your friendship with them, try to persuade them with sincerity.
仪态就是指以操控自己让人在视觉中感觉到的形象为因，来让人觉得你的态度和心态是如何为果。
虽然西方人说“不能靠封面来猜测书的内容”，但毕竟相由心生。既然会有“不能靠封面来猜测书的内容”这句话的诞生，就表示太多人是靠封面来猜测内容的。所以如何在第一印象就给对方致命一击，成了往后战局的关键。
走路、谈吐、语气、口气、衣着、发型、表情、站姿，能然人用视觉、嗅觉、听觉感觉得到的，全部检视一遍，确保不会有让人标新立异、哗众取宠的感觉才出门。八面玲珑乃最高境界，但只要不让自己陷入四面楚歌的境地就行。
Deportment mean how impress people to let them figure your attitude and state of mind. Although we say: "Don't judge a book by it's cover", but Chinese people believe that how a person look is how he behave. And since "Don't judge a book by it's cover" this word exist, mean there's still many people judge a book by it's cover. So whether you'll success or lose the combat is decide at your first impression.
Always revise your deportment before you go out. Be concise, be clean, be polite.
以“良禽择木而栖”这句话拉开话闸子，今天要说的是关于“环境”。
常常会听到朋友之间说：“唉... 那个老板都不是人来的，做到半死，人工那一点点。”、“你就好咯，遇到酱好的老板，看我做到半死都没有你薪水高。”很多时候我们埋怨自己的上司不好，呆的环境不能有所发挥，每天郁郁寡欢，悠悠不得志的感觉。如果埋怨能够改变现状，那你早就不埋怨了。那竟然觉得自己对得起天地良心，从没吃蛇偷懒，那为什么还是怀才不遇呢？
大师说过：“如果你改变不了环境，就改变你自己”。说得容易，可是改变自己其实是要改变什么啊？
不就是态度、心态、仪态，还有别的吗？
I start the topic with this idiom. Let's talk about environment today.
Always heard these kind of grumbling between friend's conversation, "My boss is inhuman, work like shit, and the pay is really like shit", "I'm so envious of you to work under such a good company, my work load is more than you but get pay not even as you." We'll stop grumbling if grumbling can really change the bad situation. If you have a very clear conscience, then why you still always feel like you're sinking in a bottomless mud?
Some master quoted that, if you can't change the environment, change yourself. Easy to say with your lips, but what to change about yourself?
That's Attitude, State of Mind & Deportment, what else?
态度决定一切。什么意思？指的就是以你对待外界的方法为因，所引起发生在你自己身上的事情之果。有几点是很重要的，一是表现出“诚意”。
哪门子的诚意？三顾茅庐似的求机会？不止这些，还要有为了吃到老虎肉而能把自己扮成只猪的虚心。在强者（泛指前辈、上司）面前引他分享，在弱者（泛指后辈、下属）面前引他上进。如此应该能得到强者的关注、帮助、扶助，又能得到弱者的尊重、敬重、效忠。如此这般，心术正者，必扶摇直上。
二是忠义。为兄弟能两肋插刀，为主子（泛指老板、上司）能不？为兄弟能翻山越岭，为主子能不？为兄弟能披荆斩棘、上刀山、下油锅、置生死于度外，为主子能不？对兄弟能雪中送炭，对主子能不？对兄弟能赤胆忠肝，对主子能不？不能，你还指望主子会为你两肋插刀、翻山越岭、披荆斩棘、上刀山、下油锅、置生死于度外？你还指望主子会对你雪中送炭、赤胆忠肝？迷茫时劝你者，感激之。落难时助你者，报答之。待人处事无忠无义者，人人诛之。
关于实力、程度、能力这个问题，只要达到标准，也就是所谓的“完美”就行了。这个完美也称之为“最低要求”。当然了，如果一辆新车的车门被刮花了，你还会买吗？我没叫你买一送一，举一反三，只是要求货要对版，一点也不过分吧？总是害怕自己的能力不足，出社会后难以与同业竞争。但自工作后四周看一看，发现有所成就的都未必是成绩标青者，而是态度积极者居多。怎么说？就是聪明反被聪明误吧，能力过低者难以竞争，能力高者往往清高过人，自视过高，要不然就树大招风，锋芒尽露，一下就被刷下来了。只要做得比标准稍稍好一点，处风低调，往往能一帆风顺。其实最难拿捏的，就是“刚刚好”这个事儿啊。
Attitude decide everything. Which mean how you treat the outside, they'll treat you back at the same way. So to show sincerity is very important. Ask for chance with sincerity, and behave to be modest to learn. Attract people with stronger abilities than you (also included your senior, your boss) to share with you, and try to help people weaker than you (also included your junior) to improve. People with kind-heart always success.
Loyalty is important as well, if you cant treat your boss well, don't ever think that they will help you. If you always think of betraying someone or back-stabbing, don't pray for help when something bad happen on you.
Pursue for perfection is the least demand. I bet you won't buy a new Mercedes with a scratch outside the door. Perfection means exactly same with what your boss (or customer) ask for, not giving any extra, so it's absolutely reasonable. Once I always afraid that it might be hard to compete when I enter the society, but it is not that worse as I've thought when I start to work, as we can ignore people that too weak to compete, people who really success is not those people who study really well in school, but those with active attitude.
心态指的是以你对待自己内心世界的方法为因，所引起发生在你影响外界的方法之果。乐观当然是最重要的了。
有没有天塌下来当被盖的觉悟？每天怨声载道，散发负面能量，怎么可能会有正面反馈？我们能做满腹不满的愤青，这是必须的，连对世界上自认有欠公平之事都不敢给予发言，不敢深加思考，不敢公开讨论，你还指望这个人的脑袋能够容得下世界？发言之余是否提出积极观点？思考之余是否发现思路盲点？讨论之余是否和谐商量，交换各自意见观点？积极的讨论，乐观的见解，能让人感觉你有把事情往好处引导的能力。乐观者，必心存善念，好事将慢慢找上门。
话说物以类聚，人以群分。什么群？就拿身边的朋友当镜子来照一照。好吃懒做者、坐以待毙者、守株待兔者、夜郎自大者、异想天开者、寅吃卯粮者、自吹自擂者，如果都有，那不成问题，绝交难为之，疏远倒不必。清醒者，不如试试看能不能再谈吐之间影响之？待人须有诚意，劝说需有诚意，要求需有诚意。真的有事需登三宝殿，更得表现出诚意。送礼？送金？那倒不必，需要的是心无邪念的一句真挚话语。
Statement of Mind means how you affect your attitude to others with your psychological. Of course, optimism is the most important attitude. Have you prepared for anything that will happen accidentally? There won't be any good thing happen if you always release bad energy. We can be those so-called Angry Youth, it is necessary, if we can't even speak our word against things we think it is unfair, can't think out of mind, can't discuss with others, how can we strive to become someone who can really do something to change the world? Think big, work small, be optimistic.
Chinese believe that people will be in the same group that behave like themselves. Look around your circle, what did your friends look like is just same as you. Those lazy one, those wait to be kill one, those wait the durian drop one, those megalomaniac one, those always day dreaming one, those eating dinner at morning one, those always boasting one, is your friend behave like this? You won't have to tear up your friendship with them, try to persuade them with sincerity.
仪态就是指以操控自己让人在视觉中感觉到的形象为因，来让人觉得你的态度和心态是如何为果。
虽然西方人说“不能靠封面来猜测书的内容”，但毕竟相由心生。既然会有“不能靠封面来猜测书的内容”这句话的诞生，就表示太多人是靠封面来猜测内容的。所以如何在第一印象就给对方致命一击，成了往后战局的关键。
走路、谈吐、语气、口气、衣着、发型、表情、站姿，能然人用视觉、嗅觉、听觉感觉得到的，全部检视一遍，确保不会有让人标新立异、哗众取宠的感觉才出门。八面玲珑乃最高境界，但只要不让自己陷入四面楚歌的境地就行。
Deportment mean how impress people to let them figure your attitude and state of mind. Although we say: "Don't judge a book by it's cover", but Chinese people believe that how a person look is how he behave. And since "Don't judge a book by it's cover" this word exist, mean there's still many people judge a book by it's cover. So whether you'll success or lose the combat is decide at your first impression.
Always revise your deportment before you go out. Be concise, be clean, be polite.
无论你是菜鸟、老鸟、烂鸟还是良鸟，相信能做到以上这几点，既诚心待人、义胆忠肝、虚心向学、积极进取、衣着得体、谈吐得当。不管你是什么鸟，只要种下良因，结出良果，长出良木，必能突围而出。成就非凡，成为择木之良鸟，而非被木折磨之烂鸟。
共勉之。
No matter what bird you are, new bird, old bird, lame bird or good bird. If you can always remind yourself with the things i mentioned just now, show your sincerity, show your loyalty, stay hungry, stay foolish, wear smart, speak gently, I'm sure you'll get a lot of good wood to choose, which mean good chance. Become a good bird that can choose wood, not a lame bird that always torture by wood.
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